I have a confession to make - I love funky socks. I buy them but then I'm too self-conscious to wear them. This year I have decided to wear my funky socks and not care what anyone else thinks. What would you do if you didn't care what other people thought? Be brave and courageous. Be you!
I have a pretty healthy body image but I’ve never been a big fan of my legs. They’re kind of chunky compared to the rest of my body with purple veins laced over them like streets on a road map. But these legs have carried me around California where I have explored Disneyland and Universal Studios. They have skied down mountains, trekked through the ancient temples of Cambodia, wandered the streets of Penang, climbed the gorges of Karijini and strolled along the golden sands of Cable Beach. So I’m very grateful for these legs.
Challenge: Do you have a body part that you love to hate? Write a list of things it helps you do and reasons to be thankful for it?
How often do you hear yourself saying things like, I'm so stupid, I'll never get good grades, I'm not good at anything, nobody likes me? These kind of thoughts can affect your behaviour and become self-fulfilling prophecies. With a bit of time and effort you can change your thinking.
Think about your self-talk and write down negative things you say to yourself.
For example, I'm not good at anything.
Judge your thoughts to see if there is any evidence that this is true.
For example, I can cook the best chocolate chip cookies. I get good grades in Math, I am great at Sodoku puzzles. You are good at three things (most likely more) so the statement, I'm not good at anything, is not true.
Replace the negative thought with a more positive one.
Next time you're tempted to say, I'm not good at anything, say something like I'm not great at spelling but I'm getting better.
All the best!
Remember when you were in primary school and there was that one kid that kept copying you so you would put your arm over your work or build a fort of books so they couldn't see? Every time you sat a test the teacher would say, "keep your eyes on your own work." It's important to do your own work in school, but it's also important to do your own thing in life too. Don't copy how other people speak, dress or act to fit in - just be you. Don't be awkward or embarrassed about your love of folk music or your passion for photography, or your weakness for gherkins - just own it.
As Year 12 students prepare for their final exams it's important to remember that you are more than your ATAR. In her recent post, educator Linda Stade, pointed out, "Approximately 50 % of Australian students go on to university studies at some point. Of them, 26% of students use an ATAR score to enter university. The rest use alternative entrance platforms. That means, approximately 13% of all students currently in Year 12 will actually use an ATAR."
So, with that in mind, know that it's not the end of the world if you don't get the score you were hoping for. If plan A doesn't work, try plan B, or even C or D.
Self-confidence is an attractive feature. This is different to arrogance or egotism - it's knowing that you are ok, just the way you are. It is also a quality that not many of us possess. Even people who seem confident are often just faking it. So how do you get it?
Valentine's Day is a bit of a bust unless you have a boyfriend, and even then, most teenage boys don't really get it anyway. Why not give yourself some self love this Valentine's Day?
I'm a big fan of author Andrew Matthews' book, Being a Happy Teen. He recently posted an article on his website about how telling yourself NOT to do something doesn't work. This is because our brain works in pictures, so when you say to yourself, "don't have an accident," your brain pictures you having an accident. Instead, we should tell ourselves what to do. For example, "drive safely." Another example of this principle is to try telling yourself "do not think about kangaroos." Of course, you are thinking about kangaroos! You can read the full article here. I certainly wasn't taught this at school but I'm going to put it into practice this week and see what happens.