Remember when you were in primary school and there was that one kid that kept copying you so you would put your arm over your work or build a fort of books so they couldn't see? Every time you sat a test the teacher would say, "keep your eyes on your own work." It's important to do your own work in school, but it's also important to do your own thing in life too. Don't copy how other people speak, dress or act to fit in - just be you. Don't be awkward or embarrassed about your love of folk music or your passion for photography, or your weakness for gherkins - just own it.
22 year old Pheobe Ho is one of the 7 News Young Achiever Awards Finalists. Because of her experience of eating disorders she is passionate about mental health. Pheobe is a Headspace National Youth Advisor, was the UWA Guild Welfare Officer in 2018, won the Cruickshank-Routley Memorial Award for her contribution to life on campus, and has run many mental health programs.
When asked what advice she would give her teenage self she said:
1) Know that my self-worth as a person is more than my shape, appearance, and weight because I am the connections I’ve formed with other people, and the memories I’ve shared with them.
2) To have persevered in help-seeking and to have known that it may take several tries before you “click” with the right psychologist. I generalised my first not-so-positive experience to all other psychologists and out of seeking help for a long time. But when I found the right psychologist, it was extremely beneficial to my recovery.
3) To enjoy life, surround myself my positive people, and value me for me and all the amazing things I can do- walk, run, talk, socialise, etc. and not buy into images of body ideals on social media that are often photoshopped and an inaccurate representation of reality.
Kids' Helpline is not just for kids - their counsellors are trained to deal with people up to the age of 25.
When you speak, your tone and body language say more than your words do as indicated by Albert Mehrabian's 7-38-55 Rule. This is especially important to remember when you are speaking to your parents. Whining, an aggressive or defensive tone, throwing your hands in the air and rolling your eyes are all sure ways to get your parents off side. If you want them to really hear you, try to control your tone and gestures. It might be helpful to do some breathing exercises, listen to some music or journal your feelings before you speak to them.
We had lunch with friends recently and were laughing so much we cried. I realised afterwards that the things we were laughing at were times in our lives when things had gone wrong. At the time, all those incidents were painful, embarrassing and definitely not funny. Next time something goes wrong or you embarrass yourself remember you will probably laugh about it one day.
Sometimes you feel loneliest in the middle of a busy crowd. Everyone else is busy chatting and laughing in their cliques and groups while you're standing awkwardly on the outskirts. If you find yourself in this situation, more likely than not, your inner mean girl will remind you how much of a loser you are etc. Instead of listening to her, tell her to zip it and go and find someone to talk to. Chances are, they are feeling just as lost. Act as though you are confident, even if you don't feel it. You never know, you might make a life long friend.
The summer holidays is the perfect time to sort through your wardrobe. The Sydney Morning Herald has a helpful article on how to do this - you can read it here. I like the first step:
Dump everything in your closet onto your bedroom floor. All of it. Every bra, every sock, the t-shirts, all the dresses – everything needs to come out before anything can go back in. You want your bedroom to look like you've been burgled.
In the past I have sorted my wardrobe with the clothes in it and I'm not as ruthless as I should be. I'm definitely going to try it this way next time. I have a bin pile for clothes that are worn out and a donate pile for clothes that I don't wear anymore or don't fit. When putting clothes back, I like to keep like items together such as dresses, pants, t-shirts. Good luck.
ATAR results are out and some of you are elated and others are devastated. Regardless of how you did, https://year13.com.au has some some useful information on what to do next. There are lots of articles, advice and links to agencies and websites. Just remember not to panic. Every successful person has experienced failure to some degree - it makes them more determined. If you didn't get the score you wanted or needed there are plenty of alternate pathways to university and plenty of options other than university. Good luck.