When you speak, your tone and body language say more than your words do as indicated by Albert Mehrabian's 7-38-55 Rule. This is especially important to remember when you are speaking to your parents. Whining, an aggressive or defensive tone, throwing your hands in the air and rolling your eyes are all sure ways to get your parents off side. If you want them to really hear you, try to control your tone and gestures. It might be helpful to do some breathing exercises, listen to some music or journal your feelings before you speak to them.
We had lunch with friends recently and were laughing so much we cried. I realised afterwards that the things we were laughing at were times in our lives when things had gone wrong. At the time, all those incidents were painful, embarrassing and definitely not funny. Next time something goes wrong or you embarrass yourself remember you will probably laugh about it one day.
Sometimes you feel loneliest in the middle of a busy crowd. Everyone else is busy chatting and laughing in their cliques and groups while you're standing awkwardly on the outskirts. If you find yourself in this situation, more likely than not, your inner mean girl will remind you how much of a loser you are etc. Instead of listening to her, tell her to zip it and go and find someone to talk to. Chances are, they are feeling just as lost. Act as though you are confident, even if you don't feel it. You never know, you might make a life long friend.
The summer holidays is the perfect time to sort through your wardrobe. The Sydney Morning Herald has a helpful article on how to do this - you can read it here. I like the first step:
Dump everything in your closet onto your bedroom floor. All of it. Every bra, every sock, the t-shirts, all the dresses – everything needs to come out before anything can go back in. You want your bedroom to look like you've been burgled.
In the past I have sorted my wardrobe with the clothes in it and I'm not as ruthless as I should be. I'm definitely going to try it this way next time. I have a bin pile for clothes that are worn out and a donate pile for clothes that I don't wear anymore or don't fit. When putting clothes back, I like to keep like items together such as dresses, pants, t-shirts. Good luck.
ATAR results are out and some of you are elated and others are devastated. Regardless of how you did, https://year13.com.au has some some useful information on what to do next. There are lots of articles, advice and links to agencies and websites. Just remember not to panic. Every successful person has experienced failure to some degree - it makes them more determined. If you didn't get the score you wanted or needed there are plenty of alternate pathways to university and plenty of options other than university. Good luck.
Some brilliant lyrics:
Wish I didn't think I had the answers
Wish I didn't drink all of that flask first
Wish I made it to homecoming
Got up the courage to ask her
Wish I would've gotten out of my shell
Wish I put the bottle back on the shelf
Wish I wouldn't have worried about what other people thought
And felt comfortable in myself
Been scared of the future, thinking' about the past
While missing out on now.