Here is an excerpt from an interview with Claire Cottrill by Coup De Main Magazine. "That song is extremely special to me, just because it’s about an experience that I never really shared with a lot of people. In eighth grade, I was having a really hard time dealing with my depression that’s been on and off my whole life, and there was a time where I really felt like I didn’t want to be here anymore. And instead of making this song about how sad that is and how bad I felt in the moment, I wanted to make it about my friend Alexa who called the police when she suspected that I was feeling this way. Even if it was just the thought, she still cared enough to intervene and be a true friend, which is something I didn’t feel like I ever had and had never experienced until Alexa. So the song is really more of a love song to her and kind of a ‘thank you’ and a reminder to everyone else that there are people like Alexa that want to help uplift you and get you out of really terrible head-spaces. I’m in the best stage of my life right now, and I would have never known how great it was, but Alexa is a big part of my life and a big part of my story."
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This is a great mindfulness activity that is quick and easy to do - all you need is a piece of paper and a pencil or pen. You're meant to do this with your non-dominant hand but I think it works with your dominant hand too. It was really relaxing. I even started colouring mine in.
We've all had friends say it to us and we've all said it to our friends and family. "I'm fine" can be code for "I'm not really ok but I don't have the energy or words to explain and I'm not sure if you really want the truth." By asking "how are you really?" we are telling the other person that we care and want to help. Sometimes the act of talking about something can make them feel better. But if your friend shares that they want to hurt themselves or someone else, find an understanding adult who can help. Talk to a school counsellor, chaplain or teacher, a parent, aunty, family friend or someone else you can trust.
If you're anything like me you worry about a lot of stuff. We waste a lot of energy worrying about things that don't deserve our attention. There's a Chinese term zhilaohu which translates to 'paper tigers.' This refers to things that seem threatening or powerful but are actually weak and insignificant. If it can physically hurt you it is a real tiger, but if it can't it's a paper tiger.
You can read more at www.fosteringresilience.com.
CHALLENGE: Write down the things that you're worried about then decide if each one is a paper tiger or a real tiger.
According to a recent study, reading for six minutes a day can reduce a person's stress level by 68 percent. You have to read silently for six minutes straight for this to work. Researchers from the Mindlab at the University of Sussex found that reading was more effective at reducing stress than listening to music, having a cup of tea or going for a walk. Researcher and cognitive neuropsychologist Dr David Lewis said, “Losing yourself in a book is the ultimate relaxation." Read more here.
I've had this cactus for about 40 years. The thing I love about this cactus is that it's impossible to kill. It seems to thrive, no matter the conditions. It's what we call resilient. In summer it survives on very little water and in winter it gets saturated with rain.
We need to learn to be like a cactus, not prickly, but able to survive and grow in all kinds of conditions. Life is not all sunshine and unicorns, sometimes there are bad days and even bad seasons. We need to learn not just to survive those tough times, but to thrive in them. So how do we do that? Here are three simple things you can do to help you get through the tough times:
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